By Amanda Jagus | 10/31/17 2:41pm
By now, the term softboy has become a ubiquitous part of millennial vernacular. Popular discourse hypothesizes that the softboy is the antithesis of the f-boy. However, I argue that softboys are the “sensitive” foils to f-boys that wield their emotions in a different, yet still destructive manner. Which begs the question, why are they like this? What empowers softboys to drain women of their emotional labor, while maintaining that “they are bad people” without doing anything to own up to the fact? Who gave them a “not like the other boys complex?” I spend a lot of time thinking about what made me think I was not like the other girls, and why not being like the other girls was cool. Some may say, “Amanda, are you projecting?’” The answer is yes, absolutely. Regardless, I’m deep diving into songs that enable this special type of misogyny.